I have a Polish friend whose mother was filled with wise observations of life. One of her perceptions went something like this: “We earn the faces we carry in our old age.”

She recognized that people who were easily angered dug permanent lines between their eyebrows. The skincare industry refers to it as the lion’s wrinkle or the furrow of anger, because it makes a person look menacing and grim. Another example is those who spend a lifetime wearing frown faces; they create lasting horizontal lines across their forehead and deep crevices connecting the edges of their nose and mouth. Likewise, if we spend our days smiling, we develop smile-lines at the edges of our lips and eyes. So, no matter our attitude or countenance, aging skin will grace us with wrinkles, but it is up to us as to which story we want them to tell.

Digging deeper, our wrinkle patterns are outward signs of inward realities. If we are quick to anger, have resting frown faces, or default to worrying throughout our lives, it is because inwardly we are anxious, unhappy, or fearful. In contrast, have you ever noticed how all of the Sisters of Life have beautiful skin? They also seem to be ageless. I met some that I thought were in their forties and then figured out they are in their early sixties. I have had that same observation with sisters from other religious orders too and have jokingly asked them if pristine skin is a requirement for the vocation. In truth I recognize it is the great faith, hope, and trust they have in Jesus that gives them the inner peace that reflects outward.

Few people have had deeper or more distinctive wrinkles than Mother Teresa. They framed her charismatic smile and loving eyes. We can blame our facial expressions on the stress of this world but living among and serving the poorest of the poor, and walking with women who are struggling with unexpected pregnancies, are careers much harder than most of the ones we have. Prayer, trust, and the Sacraments are the trade secrets. I am sure my friend’s wise Polish mother would agree.

Scripture: This week, read Matthew 6:31-33. What is it saying to you?

Call to Action:  Spend this Lent developing a deeper trust in Jesus by devoting more time to prayer, quality Lenten reading, and attending some of our faith formation offerings. Your aging face will thank you.